One of the most rewarding times in a parent’s life can also be a traumatic experience for toddlers. A new baby is exciting but at the same time, a toddler can feel displaced and confused.

It’s important to help your toddler understand the changes and know what to expect. Let’s take a look at how to help your toddler cope with a new sibling.

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1.) It all begins with the preparation. You’ve had nine months to plan for and adapt to the coming of a new child. Your toddler has probably only had a few months. On top of that they really don’t understand what a new baby means to their life. One of the best ways to help your toddler cope with a new sibling is to help them understand what’s going to change.

People don’t like change and toddlers like it even less. Helping your child know what to expect will ease the transition. Try to keep your conversations light while at the same time honest and open.

For example, you can tell your child that the new baby is going to be a part of the family and that means a little extra work for everyone, but it also means another person to love. You can let your child know that they’ll have extra responsibilities as the big brother or sister and may have to share. Also let them know that they’ll still have time with just mommy or daddy.

2.) Get them involved in the process of caring for their new sibling. Toddlers can do a lot to help. They can fetch items you need to care for the baby. They can play with the baby and they can help you around the house. When your toddler gets to help with the care of their new sibling, they feel like they’re making a contribution and they’re a valuable member of the family.

3.) Give them some one on one time. Your toddler is used to having 100% of your attention. When a new sibling arrives, they’re going to feel slighted. Make sure to spend one on one time with your toddler as often as possible.

During the baby’s naps is a good time. Also in the evening before bed is also a good time. You can add a few minutes to your toddler’s bedtime routine, read a story or just talk about their day.

Finally, it’s important to let your toddler know how proud you are of them when they help and what a great brother or sister they are. Make room for them to grow and keep them busy with new activities. They’ll soon forget all about their jealousy or confusion, and they’ll settle into the new family changes just fine.